Getting engaged is always a special occasion, whether it’s out of the blue or something you’ve known was coming for a long time. Once the excitement of telling everyone and celebrating with friends and family is over, you need to get down to actually thinking about and planning your wedding.
But where do you start?
The best thing to do is think about all the things you want at your wedding. Sit down as a couple and just write down every idea. Don’t veto anything yet, don’t rule anything out. Just think about everything that you think could make the day special or memorable for you.
Once you have that list, start looking through it. Start thinking about what would be insanely expensive or wildly impractical, or even potentially impossible too.
Look at these points and see if they can be toned down or made more realistic.
This will give you both a clear idea of what you’d love to have at your wedding, then you can start looking at what you both agree on. There might need to be a degree of compromise, but this will help you to shape what you’d like your wedding to include
Doing this should give you a list of what your dream wedding (if money was no object and nothing was out of reach) would involve.
You might find that you both want a lavish fairytale day. Or you might discover that you both want a quieter, more intimate wedding. Either way, this gives you a starting point to work out your potential budget and to work out where would be the best place to start when bringing the different elements of your wedding together.
Once you’ve got your list, it’s a good idea to do some initial research. How much is a venue going to cost? Are you building your wedding using individual suppliers, or going for more of a package, for instance?
Get quotes, request brochures, visit venues and ask questions to get an idea of the typical cost for the different things you want. This gives you an idea of what your wedding might cost, which you can then gauge against what you think you can comfortably afford.
Doing this should give you an idea of budget. You can then think about what you can put aside each month to go towards the wedding. This might impact the length of your engagement, as you need time to save up. Or it might be a case of waiting for availability at your dream venue.
If you’re stuck for ideas, or you’ve got your dream list and need some help seeing what you can and can’t manage on the big day, a wedding fair is a great start.
Normally these events can give you an idea of the sort of venue you’d like, and give you an insight into things like entertainment, flowers, finding a photographer, and everything else that makes up a wedding.
You don’t have to commit to anything while you’re at a wedding fair. Keep in mind that you can take business cards, ‘like’ things on Facebook or follow someone on Instagram. You can then go away, have a think, and talk about your choices as a couple.
This can be an extra steer that helps define your budget, but it can also give you clarity on things you might have been unsure of, like different forms of entertainment or the sort of food you’d like. You might leave more sure of what you want than before, or needing to do more research.
Once you’ve ironed out your budget and decided on the direction you want your wedding to take, you need to start making some initial bookings and checking availabilities for venues, churches, registrars, entertainment, etc.
You might find that the process of trying to plan a wedding is all a bit much. This is where enlisting a wedding planner, like at Mitton Hall, could be a great idea. They plan weddings for a living and can help and guide you through the entire process to help make your ideal wedding a reality.
To find out more about having your dream wedding at Mitton Hall, get in touch with our Dream Makers to arrange a showaround.< Back to the blog archive